Just now, a friend borrowed money again, and I gave it to them once more, still unable to refuse. But I was smart this time and gave less. Over the years, I've been scammed and have a few thousand in uncollectible debts, including a few years ago when I was so broke I had to sell my sports car, and I still can't get any of it back. Gradually, I've come to understand many truths. Never lend your family or friends more money than they can handle, because they will balance it out to their normal state. It's like trading cryptocurrencies; if it exceeds your control, you won't be able to hold onto it, and the disasters will outweigh the gains. These realizations come from countless tears and sleepless nights. You fantasize that by giving money to others, you can also pass on your wisdom, which is simply a delusion. Countless big shots can only pass on wealth but cannot convey understanding. If you give someone more money than they can bear, it will likely bring them disaster. A young girl who quickly makes money is just like us gambling online to earn millions; once you get used to it, saying you earn 3000 a month becomes really hard to go back to. I chatted with friends who have the same troubles and found that we are all pretty much the same. Summarizing from everyone's cases: Most people's understanding will be like ours at the beginning, thinking that they deserve these things or that they are earned through their abilities. Family will think, "You have it, why not give them a bit more? It doesn't matter if you have a little less, can't you lend this small amount? Are relatives just for show?" After getting used to it, not lending will lead to conflicts and arguments. Of course, don't expect to get it back. Partners will think, "Aren't your earnings mine too? Didn't I give you children? Shouldn't you be working late to earn money for my parents to buy houses and cars? Didn't I cook for you? Aren't you taking care of my brother who's in school? Am I not helping you keep your wealth?" Friends will think, "A little fluctuation can mean tens of thousands or even millions; what's wrong with lending you a bit? If I can lend, it’s a skill! Last time, that person scammed you out of millions, but I’m not scamming you! I’m just saying I can’t afford to wait five or ten years to pay you back!" These questions will come one after another, and the understanding will leave you speechless. Even if you’re so broke that you have to sell your car or house, as long as you’re not starving, there will be people wondering how you can be short on money? Regardless of whether it's due to resource scarcity or other reasons, the ugly side is fully exposed. As for solutions, the only thing I can think of is not to try to reason with anyone and to cut your losses early. If you can get it back, then get it; if not, then forget it. Don't argue over differing understandings, and don't let it affect your mood. Those who have scammed you before may even feel good about it and think about scamming you a second time! Friends in the crypto space should be especially cautious with each other.